Few months ago, a reader – Abdul Gafoor- sent me a WhatsApp message. He is a South Indian settled in New Delhi. His question was if there is any formula to overcome fear, stress and tension in life.
“Udayji, I have read many of your articles related to mind and it’s functioning. I have tried some methods that were illustrated in those articles. Still I am not able to cope up with many worries in life. Sometimes, I really feel extremely stressed and scared for no reason too.”
I asked him: “What’s the distance between Delhi and Agra?”
“Ji, from my place it should be around 240 kms if we go through Taj Express Highway or Yamuna Expressway…”
“Do you drive a car?” I asked him.
“Yes, I do…”
“How much time would it take for you to reach Agra then?”
“Why are you asking such questions Ji? Are you testing my psychological capacity anyways?”
“No…Nothing like that – I am not a psychologist. I love driving…so I am curious to know…”
“Ji, I go by moderate speed only, probably 60 km per hour. So it should take 3.5 to 4 hours…”he said.
“Yes. Going by simple arithmetic, it must be true. If you go at a speed of 60 kms per hour, you can cover a distance of 240 kms in 4 hours…”
“Ji, I asked you about my mental condition…and you are diverting our talk to mathematics…”
“Let me clear my doubts before going to your mental condition…Are you sure you can reach there in 4 hours?”
“Oh, I understand…you might be testing my mental ability to drive…yes, I am sure that we can reach there in 4 hours. When are you visiting Delhi? It would be my pleasure to host you and take you to Agra and Taj Mahal…”
“Thank you. I will visit someday… So, in an ideal condition you should reach Agra in 4 hours…”
“Yes Ji… Hundred percent…”
“Abdul, I wouldn’t say 100%. I would put it as 99%. Because many things can happen in between. Your car tyre can get punctured. You may experience a breakdown. Or there can be an unexpected traffic jam or road block. You can fall sick. Worse, you can face with an accident – your fault or by somebody’s fault, right? In that case, this four hour time frame doesn’t work…”
“Yes Udayji…”Abdul said, “So we have to provide a cushioning time always, that’s what you mean, right? We have to take everything into consideration and if you want to reach in four hours, you may have to give an extra 2 hours in it, right?”
“Right, in some bad cases, like accidents, you may not even make it too….”
“This is how we plan life too. Based on available data, conditioned inputs, assumptions and our limited knowledge, we plan everything in life. These plans happen knowingly. Sometimes, subconsciously also such plans happen. We plan things and expect it to happen as per the plan, because we think we know things. We know ONLY what is fed in our brain. Not a bit more than that. There is nothing abnormal in it. In fact, for ordinary human like us there is no other go too. As a human we can live like this only. And mostly – that is 99% – things may work out according to our plan. But there is one unknown factor too. There is a variable of 1 % which we always oversee. On an information level we know about this unknown factor or mysterious variable, still in ground reality we always oversee it.”
“That’s right Ji…”
“In some cases – it so happens that (there seems no known or apparent reason for that) this 1% variable becomes more powerful than all the 99% together. This variable is totally unknown to us. It can happen to anybody, anytime. For instance, you are going to appear for an exam which you are confident about winning with full marks, because you have studied well and worked hard on it. But, if some questions are asked from the areas which you have neglected or ignored what will happen?”
“You are right Udayji, we all know that there always is an unknown factor, but our logical mind don’t acknowledge it always…”
“We need to balance our logic with awareness that there could be many illogical things too. Let’s don’t mix up logic with beliefs. The unknown variable cannot be expained logically, hence linking it to unknown, which broadly comes under beliefs, could help. If you give due importance to that unknown variable, life would be very happy and you won’t be fearful…We must know that this 1 % variable is not in our hand or in our control and it has unbelievable and tremendous power to overcome the whole 99%, at times. Let me ask the same question again, how much time would it take to reach Agra from your place?”
“Normally it would take four hours, if the 1 % variable doesn’t overpower…”
“Abdul, you can tell it in easy way, the way your ancestors said: We can reach Agra in 4 hours, Inshaa Allah…”
– In Arabic, Inshaa Allah means “if God wills so” (Three words make up this phrase: “In”, which means “if”; “Shaa’ ”, which means “will;” and “Allah,” meaning “God.” Literally, it means “If God wills so.)
“Oh Udayji, its part of every Muslim’s daily vocabulary. Wow! I just remembered – My father used to tell me not to make definitive statements about the future, as according to our belief, only God knows what will happen.”
– That’s the key. Abdul Gafoor is a manifestation of a certain belief system in his childhood. Every human being is. The input belief system conditions his/her mind. When he tries put up a liberal or rational outlook and goes against this conditioning, a conflict will be created inside the mind. Conflict turns into stress – it is normal. The outcome of stress is tension, fear, worries, insecurity and anxiety.
“Yes, if you use this phrase always and follow it earnestly, it will have a psychological, magical effect in your life. It will sync with your belief system which is very deep-rooted in the sub-conscious. This means that if you plan to host me a dinner when I visit Delhi, instead of saying “I will host dinner today” you should say: “I will host dinner today, Inshaa Allah.”
“Oh Udayji, that’s great. I know you are a follower of Hindu Dharma. Do you also say Inshaa Allah…?”
“Oh, No. I would always say in my mind “Hari Iccha…”(Hari is a word for the concept of God. It also denotes the cosmic consciousness. Iccha = wish)
“Isn’t it the same as Inshaa Allah?”
“Technically you can say that both mean the same. Inshaa Allah is in Arabic language and “Hari Iccha” is in Indian languages. However both have the same effect on the mind of the believer. But, yes, theoretically and factually there are differences – it starts with basic facts like Hari is not equivalent to God. Both concepts of Gods are totally different. However, those points are not relevant here (I have discussed about it in other articles in http://www.udaypai.in/). Let’s go by layman belief that Hari is God as Allah is God.”
“Okay, you mean to say that as an Islamic faith follower I should always say everything is Insha Allah and as a Hindu you would say Hari Iccha”
“Yes, try that for at least 101 days consciously. And experience its magic in life.” (As far as believers in other faiths are concerned they can use the name of their favourite God instead of Hari or Allah.)
“Ji, I am curious to know. How did it effect in your life? I mean your saying of Hari Iccha.”
“To start with, Abdul, it gives humility, security, and clarity in life. It clears the confusion in mind level. This takes away responsibility from us. It makes us to focus only on what we do or what we say, and we will not worry about the outcome (result).” I continued: “It was a slow process, we shall experience that divine feeling by being in Hari’s will constantly, seeing Hari everywhere, knowing that whatever is happening – it is Hari’s will. When I talked to you, whom I never met in life and never intended to, who made that happen? It is Hari’s wish that you talk to me, so I accept it and honour the situation as Hari iccha. Whatever situation – good or bad – comes with Hari’s wish. So, worrying about any situation in life is equivalent to insulting the wisdom of Hari. And when I let go of my wishes (created by the conditioned mind) and let Hari’s will prevail, gradually my desires and wishes drop and I will be leading a happy and contented life. This is the transformation that could happen to anybody’s life”
“Yes Ji, thank you so much – it is so simple, yet I can feel its depth now itself. It was Allah who made me talk to you. That means ‘Mashallah’ (God willed it)…I still have one more doubt…if something goes wrong, how would you cope it up Udayji?”
“When I get what I want, that is Hari Kripa (Hari’s Mercy), when I don’t get what I want, that is Hari Iccha (Hari’s Will). It is as simple as that. So I will always be happy, come what may.” I said.
A word of caution – this may not work with non-believers and atheists!
Request all readers to buy Shri. Udaylal Pai’s latest book “Why Am I A Hindu ? – The science Of Sanatan Dharma” for more such imformative articles on Sanatan Dharma
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