This Open Letter From an NRI Who Came Back To India After Being Inspired by PM Modi is Must Read !!

Many People including Founder of this website returned back to India expecting lot of positives after Narendra Modi was elected as PM in 2014. There have been few positives but most of the negatives still persists. Alone PM Modi cannot change India. He too has corrupt people representing important positions and general mentality of Indians overall has been degraded to extreme low from last so many years, which will need time to change.

One of my friend Hitesh Tiwary, who was in Japan came back and has faced series of problems because of corruption at lower levels mentioned in his facebook post below.

Here is another strong reply on why, people returning back to India from western country feel disheartened after coming back to India. This answer is taken from response of question  What are your experiences moving back to India from the western countries? Are you happy with your decision?.

First a disclaimer:

Like Nehru: “ I have become a queer mixture of the East and the West, out of place everywhere, at home nowhere.” I have lived in several places and I believe there are no perfect places and no terrible places. Each place has something to offer and something that is terrible. We just have to make peace with it.

My experience largely stems from staying in Chennai over the last 2.5 years though I have extensively travelled in the south and made many trips to places in the North.

Downvoters alert. Don’t shoot this down.

  1. No one cares for rules: No one cares for rules, more so on the road. People drive through red lights, make illegal U turns, come on the wrong side of the road. Worse, if I were to stop at a red light, there are people honking behind me feverishly as if something is on fire.
  2. No respect for life: I have seen accidents happen on the roads that could have been easily avoided. It was mortifying to see a 2 wheeler with 4 people being hit by a truck and the 2 children dying. The irony is that I had warned the rider of the 2 wheeler a week before the actual accident (he works in a shop that I frequent) that he is driving dangerously. He now blames everyone — the truck driver, the by-standers, the ambulance and the hospital. I can’t explain the feeling of carrying a dead child in my arms for his father’s fault.
  3. People judge a lot and without reason: People are judgemental. Needlessly. And without any basis. Why should they be bothered about my life style or the lights in my room at 3 a.m when I am not bothering them?
  4. People don’t learn the lessons:People witnessed the rainfall in December 2015 exceeding normal limits by over three times, a drainage system that isn’t functional, creeks and culverts that are blocked due to excessive dumping of garbage as well as the administration’s failure to ensure timely de-silting. Did they learn the lesson? NO. We saw a similar occurrence in 2017 as well. The garbage dumps have just grown in those areas.
  5. People die due to causes that could be avoided: In an area not far from my house, 2 people died due to dengue. There is water stagnation and there is garbage floating around. Frustrated, I went and talked to the people in the locality and asked them to get themselves organised and clear the swamp. After 4 months, nothing has been done. They are happy to blame a non-existent Corporation, but they are prepared to risk dengue and other diseases.
  6. Queue jumping: Very common at almost all public places — petrol station, supermarket, any ticket counters. They almost seem to believe that people who wait in the queue are just fools and that they have lots of time.
  7. Punctuality: Rarely is someone on time. A 30 minute delay is not at all a “big deal”. Worse, I have yet to hear anyone apologising for coming late. Detailed explanations are always on offer.
  8. Too much intrusion in one’s personal affairs: They would just not be satisfied of how many children I have and what they are doing now, but also want to know why I am not serious about getting them married. Even a very noted and highly respected religious and spiritual leader after knowing the family details suggested that I should get my children married. The organisation has been sending horoscopes though I never made any request and following up with me.
  9. Hypocrisy and double standards are part of our life: A famous Professor in a top 20 MBA school and holding a very responsible administrative position teaches Business ethics and waxes eloquent about ethical transgressions in public life. Yet, I have seen him do dubious deals, run his own private consulting practice without informing the school. Multiply this a 100 times.
  10. Everyone wants to reach the top of the ladder too soon: Rather tomorrow. They always look for shortcuts and some jugad.
  11. No “please’” or “thank you” We don’t have a “please” or a “thank you”: Perhaps it is not in our culture, so one should stop expecting it.
  12. Noise/Gossip has become entertainment: Rather than enjoy the performance being offered by dedicated artistes especially in concerts, most people chat and gossip and really spoil the mood of the aficionados. They want to be seen at the concerts; wonder whether they came for any musical experience.
  13. People here try to imitate the western culture, but only the superficialities.

I am very pained when I write this:

People have such high capacity to create filth and mess up the places that they don’t even spare temples. At least 3 of the ancient temples that I have visited had so much filth and dirt and that too inside the temple precinct that it was unbearable . No one— not the devotees, not the priests, not even the temple authorities seem the least perturbed even when it was pointed out to them.

I am not happy with the decision, but I convince myself with some of the positive things that I see. I know I can only change so much and do all things possible. I end with the prayer

“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”

Subba Iyer, Professor, Consultant, Coach, Counsellor, Mentor.